Marriage by 25. Network TV by 30. That was always the plan.
It sounded pretty great when I was 15. Of course, God and the universe had a hell of a different idea in store.
Hard lessons. Heartbreak. And a nice little detour to rock bottom with a slow rise to redemption.
25 came and went. I kicked off 30 with marriage vows and a huge promotion at work. I had everything I wanted.
A few short years later I was happy at home but exhausted– and confused– about my career. I asked myself, am I truly where I’m supposed to be right now?
That moment of reflection forced me to take a hard look at what I wanted. I had to get honest with myself and honest with God.
You may be here now. You’re stuck in a rut. You want big things but don’t know where to start. Or perhaps life got messy; life got in the way of that big dream you had. Your plan went to sh*t.
Or maybe your big dream came true but it’s not what it’s cracked up to be. Your dream has changed.
So let’s be straight. The one question you need to ask yourself is… How bad do you want it?
Is it something, given the circumstances in your life, you can truly attain? If you can’t buy the whole lot, can you at least get a few parking spaces?
We all deserve to feel a sense of accomplishment. To grab a big goal by the balls and smash the hell out of it. You can make it happen. Really.
Start by getting your cards lined up right.
The first thing I do, and I mean absolute first thing I do, is pray about any big decision. Be clear-cut. Lay out your exact intentions. Ask for guidance. Ask for the go-ahead. Then sleep on it. And sleep on it again.
The next step is to lay out your variables. What will this cost you, personally and professionally? What kind of work-home balance will you have, even temporarily? Do you need to take a step back in order to see the big picture of your life, including your health and relationships?
If it all looks good, and it all feels good in your bones, go after it. Chase down that dream with every ounce of strength you have. Claw after it like it belongs to you, like it was made for you.
Life is too short to half-ass your happiness. Plain and simple.
If you give it everything you have and it doesn’t work out, bow your head and start asking The Big Man Upstairs some questions.
What do you want me to do? Where do I go from here? How on earth do I get there? I’ve humbly asked for resources. Connections. Timing. Flexibility. Peace of mind.
Then it’s time to move your ass. I firmly believe in a strong balance between prayer and proactivity. Good things don’t come from thin air, and your hustle doesn’t mean a damn thing if you have no purpose. That’s not to say the journey will be any easier. But it can prevent us from making poor and impulsive decisions.
For me, it took more than a year of all the above to walk away from the amazing career I worked so hard to build in order to design a new life I love. My new career is now on the brink of awesome-ness, my soul is on fire, and I can proudly say my priorities are exactly where they should be.
Are you where you want to be? What can you do today, specifically, to get yourself there?
Don’t quit your daydream. You are meant for something greater than you can imagine.
Pray for it. Then prepare for it.
Time to hit the pavement. I’ll be right behind you.