The glitter is gone, the champagne has run out, and the reality check is here. If you’re like me, you really (really!) want to make friends with the New Year. There are a lot of good things we want for ourselves and the ones we love.
I’ll admit, I usually make multiple resolutions. Last year I took a big leap of faith and I’ll be doing the same this year.
At some point in our lives we have to get aggressive and unapologetically go after what we want and deserve. Good health, solid relationships and career advancement doesn’t magically appear. We have to work our asses off to get and keep them.
For a fresh start we typically purge the system, right? For example, we have a garage sale to de-clutter out the house or start a wholesome diet to clean up our health. (By the way, I just started a cleanse and I’m starving. Too many Christmas cookies!)
What is it you want this year?
Let’s clean out the crap that doesn’t serve us and make us better people so we can go after what we really want.
1. Recognize your comfort zone and run like HELL away from it
It’s amazing how quickly we get comfortable. Daily life becomes routine and mundane. Discontent and exhaustion start to appear normal. We settle into mediocrity because we think it’s how life is supposed to be.
This is a burning red flag. You know in your gut what doesn’t feel right. So do something to change it.
Take that risk you’ve been thinking about. Plan a spontaneous getaway with your spouse or friends. Try something you said you’d never do. Bottom line, shake it up! Otherwise you’ll look back on all the years wondering why you sat on the sidelines.
2. Suck the poison out of your life
One of the worst things for the heart and mind is toxic people. Unfortunately, this can include the ones we love the most. It can take a long time to understand and accept it.
Draw up boundaries with friends or family who aren’t in a healthy place. They may be master manipulators, deep in denial, quick to anger, codependent, or just plain bad for you. You need wide, open space to grow and that can’t happen with poisonous people sucking the energy and confidence out of you.
3. Listen to your body. Really, really listen.
Exhaustion, headaches, inflammation, upset stomach, insomnia. When something is wrong our bodies tell us loud and clear, but often times we ignore it. Don’t ignore it this time.
If needed, take yourself to a health professional– or several– until you get answers. Explore not only western but eastern medicine. (It’s insane how far behind the U.S. is in our approach to healthcare. Scary, actually.) It took half a dozen doctors to find one I trusted that didn’t throw medication my way and say there’s nothing more they can do. It was a doctor who specialized in both kinds of medicine who finally gave me a diagnosis.
Also, question everything. The labels on your food. Why a doctor says your blood results don’t show anything. Why your symptoms aren’t going away. The food and prescription drug industries make a disgusting amount of money. No one is looking our for you and your family but you. Don’t take no for an answer.
4. Take a step back
Put the dang cell phone away. In fact, turn it off for the afternoon. It’s a glorious feeling. Trust me.
Let’s be honest. On social media we only see the good photos. The happy kids, the career highlights. We don’t see the tantrums, the overworked mom, the exhausted friend who worked every holiday last year.
When we see someone has something we want, jealousy can start to trickle in. We need to stop comparing ourselves to a life we know nothing about. Instead let’s celebrate each other!
Take the time to unplug. You’ll stay present with your family and friends and less worried about what everyone else is doing.
5. Choose to be happy.
Being angry sucks. Holding resentment sucks. Refusing forgiveness sucks. So why do it?
Obviously we encounter circumstances that can be painful, but we have to let go of what we can’t control. With that comes so much freedom. We’re free to give and accept love. We’re free to open our hearts to God’s peace. We’re free to let go of things not meant for us. It’s not always an easy thing to do, but it’s a crucial line we must cross to see the good stuff in life.
That’s what the new year is all about. Changing our habits and how we make decisions so we can be the best version of ourselves. Go get what you want.
When you’re good with you and with God… You can do anything!